Being alone scares a lot of people since they have based their happiness on being “together”, so company is constantly craved. Solitude and loneliness are both a result of being alone, the only difference is that you are comfortable with it in the former whilst in the latter you are uncomfortable.
For any Sadhana, long hours of dedication to the skill/art you are practicing is essential but these are days of collective ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) Syndrome thanks to a small black screen in everyone’s hand and the compulsive need to check it every minute. If not the mobile screen, it’s the TV Screen or the computer screen – it is a pseudo company since real company takes effort to cultivate and maintain. The result is obviously, we are a generation of lonely, attention deficit people, with many friends on social media but with poor real relationships.
The root cause of this is the inability to be by yourself which leads to a compulsive need to be in touch with others which is not bad, only the direction is wrong. You are already connected with everyone/everything, more than you know. You just need to devote the same time that you devote to the screen/s without, to the screen within and realise that the screen within is a far better pursuit than the screen/s without. To give up on the screen/s without is the journey from loneliness to solitude, towards being comfortable being alone.
The irony is that you have to read this message of moving away from a screen on a screen.
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Exploring and researching on practices of Self Realisation
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Mentor: guiding people crystallise and achieve their material and spiritual goals
Background:
Former CEO of Mahindra Integrated Business Solutions- an Advisory and Business Process Management Arm of the Diversified US$ 17 Billion Mahindra Group. Ajit was responsible for transforming a Shared Services Centre of the Mahindra Group into a full-fledged Advisory and Business Process Management Company with products/services spanning Strategy & Enterprise Risk Management Advisory to Digitization and Transactional Outsourcing.
He has over 23 years of experience in the industry as an Entrepreneur. He has built businesses in Music Publishing, Media (Compact Discs/DVD’s) Manufacturing, Logistics and Financial Services and is currently nurturing his own initiative called FREE (Forests, Renewable Energy and Environment) & associated with NPO Trusts/ Organizations and mentoring select people and a few start-ups in his personal capacity.
A Chartered Accountant by Qualification with extensive continuing education in Executive Management Programs @ Harvard Business School, Michigan- Ross Business School, IIM-A
He has pursued spiritual interests since an early age exploring inner facets of self through Vipassana, Isha Yoga, Kriya Yoga, other yogic approaches / meditation techniques An Avid Marathoner, trekker/mountaineer, scuba diver, writer and motorbike traveller, is passionate about exploring the outer world as much as the inner.
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